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How To Make
Your Move Easier on Your Family |
People
generally have two kinds of needs during a home purchase. First
are the transactional needs, such as searching for a home,
obtaining financing, negotiating the terms of purchase,
completing paperwork and legal documents, and arranging the
move. The second are emotional needs that are involved in a home
purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs in a home
purchase. The following are just a handful of tips to help you
and your family ease the stress of moving.
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· Prepare
your children |
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Although you
may have lived in your current residence for just a few years,
the same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or
eight-year-old, and can include all the years he or she can
remember. Your current residence may be the only home your
children have ever known, where they feel safe and comfortable.
It may be the center of your childrens' world.
Be sure to
announce the move in a completely positive way. You might talk
about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good the schools
are. Bring your children to the new house, if you live close
enough that it is possible to do so. Otherwise, positively
describe the new house. Find out what your children's favorite
things are in your current home, and then try to re-create them
in the new home. Keep your children actively involved in the
process. For instance, don't just promise that they can decorate
their new rooms, but take them shopping for paint, bedspreads,
carpets, and other items that will make the experience more fun
and comforting.
Your
children are bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during
the move. They may be moving away from friends and family they
have known their whole lives. Find ways to make parting
pleasant. You can plan a going-away party and let your children
invite their own guests. Take pictures of everyone and create a
photo album. If your children are old enough, allow them to take
pictures of the neighborhood that they will want to remember.
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· Gain
knowledge |
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You may feel
a sense of being out of control, as though other parties to the
purchase transaction are running the show and you're merely
getting in their way. Your mortgage company, the appraiser, the
inspector, and the seller all have certain powers to approve or
disapprove of your overall plan to purchase this home and move
successfully. This is certainly not easy!
Although
this can feel stressful, one of the best things you can do for
your own peace of mind is to understand as much of the purchase
process as possible. Your Realtor® will be able to prepare you
for unknowns ahead of time and tie down loose ends as soon as
possible.
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· Trust
the process |
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There can be
so much to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel like you're
taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're initiating a big
opportunity for you and your family. Even though you can't
predict what will happen every step of the way, your Realtor®
helps people buy and sell homes as a profession! Your Realtor®
has been there before and understands that this is a major
upheaval in your life. Trust that your Realtor® is looking out
for you on your way to a successful closing and move. |
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· Be
flexible |
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Knowing that
your Realtor® will do everything possible to prepare you for the
various processes involved in your home purchase, and will tie
up those loose ends quickly and efficiently, it's important for
you to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect world.
The property inspection may reveal areas of concern, or closing
may be delayed for some reason. Try to take a deep breath and be
flexible in your thinking. You will have a much greater chance
of making your decisions based on logic and not high emotion.
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· Seek
entertainment |
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Whenever you
feel that things are spinning out of control, find a diversion!
Take a walk around your new neighborhood, go on a day trip out
of town with your family, or take your family to a movie.
Whatever diversion or outlet works best for you, this is a good
time to engage in it! Remember to take one "move" at a time. |
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